Mary Tyler Moore theme

The original lyrics to the song "Love is All Around" (the Mary Tyler Moore show theme) included the following verse.

You are most likely to succeed

You have the looks and charms and girl you know that's all you need
All the men around adore you
That sexy look will do wonders for you
Love is all around why don't you take it all
You're gonna make it after all.

That attitude is outdated, right? Part of the reason things between Kingsley and I never progressed was because, as we were discussing things afterwards (after I kind of decided things shouldn't go anywhere. But let's face it: that could very easily have changed), he said something about how I should wear skirts more often. Obviously that doesn't mean much, but, for lack of a better way to put it, I grew up with the "Mulan" generation. Very "true to yourself" kinda thing. As it turns out, my true self likes wearing man pants so I can carry a million knives in my pockets. Should I change that to get a guy?

I guess that's the same question I asked a month and a half ago about make-up, huh?

Well, tonight Kingsley and I had a long talk (an awkward talk, too, but that's not the important part here). It left me noticeably quiet, thinking, pondering, kind of just mulling over things we had said, specifically regarding relationships and boys and shit (yeah, awkward...). And a few minutes after I got up to my room, he sent me a text:

Don't get too down on yourself. You looked incredible in that dress; there are plenty of guys who wish they could have you. Just keep looking.

And for some reason it bothers me the way he always makes it sound like what I'm wearing could make all the difference.

So, do I listen to Mulan (and that Christina Aguilera song from the movie) or do I just give up on some of the stubbornness?